The Start of Healing

We all know healing from trauma is not easy at all. I feel like most of us think we are healing but really, we are just putting our issues down deeper and deeper putting on a mask. I spent a couple years stuck in a mindset of no hope and like the only answer was acting like it's not a part of me. WHY!? our flaws our problems are a part of us. I know, I used to disagree with that too like I'm not my past I'm not the hurt in my life... truth is we are and it's all about accepting it and learning how to manage it, because unfortunalty they are something we will always have to live with.

You are already at the first step, which is understanding you have some issues that you need or want to fix. Did you know you can't do it alone? Finding a support system is crucial from this point and forever going forward. A lot of us have the support we need/want but are too hurt or too scared to reach out for it. There's so much to talk about through the healing journey but let's stick with how to be comfortable with ourselves first, so we can be comfortable having the support of others.

FORGIVNESS start with yourself. Any regrets? that's a chip on your shoulder we need to get rid of. So, what if you accidently hit someone's dog (I know, I know Bear with me) are you going to live mad at yourself with guilt for the rest of your life or can we accept somethings are not in our control, maybe it will teach us empathy. The point is instead of being mad at yourself for anything you may have said, did, or maybe thought to try and learn from it, confront it, feel it so you can do better in the future. Nobody is "perfect", we are all learning new things everyday don't be ashamed of making mistakes, because if you don't make mistakes, it means you aren't trying nor learning much. Always remember things happen For Us Not to us, you will learn to find that phrase to be a key player in this process! Let that saying be almost like a motto for you, it will help teach you to have compassion for yourself and your struggles. People might say things like you're not doing enough, I don't like you because of this, or take anger out on you for a mistake you made. A lot of things feel like we should take them personally but most of what other people say, react, and do is based off their own mental health. So, try to take a deep breath and remain calm in those situations and always remain compassionate to yourself. Over time you will find yourself being calm in stressful situations and being able to think rationally and consider what other people go through on a daily basis.